What exactly defines your worth?
What exactly defines your worth? Is it your job? Your wealth? Your House? Your looks? How do we define the right parameter?
Rachna
6/19/20262 min read
Everyday we hear phrases like ‘Oh it’s worth it’, ‘I don’t think it’s worth anymore’. What exactly is worth? How do you evaluate this worth that we are talking about about day and night? Most importantly how we evaluate our own worth? How does it affect your worth if one parameter of judgement is just scraped off suddenly?
It’s not just the people around us judging us for what we don’t have but it is so deeply rooted in our own minds to judge ourselves of what we at loss of. I recently became jobless and realised how little I think of myself. But am I entirely wrong? Aren’t we all so immersed under the pressure of responsibility’s and keeping up with the trends? As much as I wanted to have a sabbatical, the thought of never going to be independent keeps me up all night. I cannot escape this never ending loop of thoughts of ‘what ifs’. And the biggest fear that I hold is that my daughter will not have anything to look up to when she thinks of me. I know it’s not true, but that’s exactly how we associate our worth with so many things that we diminish our actual worth.
There is a set bar to everything today and if you don’t match it you are a failure. If you are not fair then you are not beautiful. If you are not toned and thin you are not beautiful. If you are not earning you are a liability and a failure. Why it has become so difficult for everyone of us to just accept and embrace ourselves? This constant pressure of living upto these parameters is not only exhausting but also gives you guilt just because you want to stop and pause for a while.
Judgement is everywhere. That’s the easiest thing to do. We judge too and get judged as well. But in between these exchanges, where does the acceptance lie? Will I be able to accept my self better or love myself more if I get a high paying job? Or do I feel more beautiful if I get thin and toned? What if its an endless list and we never really reach and end to it?